Obvious Feminism?

Those that follow my blog have probably seen my post on feminism.

If you did, you probably saw where I referred to myself as a feminist.

Yep. The girl who covers herself head to toe is a feminist. I believe in equal rights, equal wages, and equal opportunities for all, regardless of gender, race, religion, or sexual preference.

Why do I bring this up? Well, I was having a conversation with someone and when I told them I was a feminist, they said

“I would have never taken you for one”

I asked “really?”

They said “Not in an obvious way, No.”

And it made me think. What is considered an “Obvious Feminist?”

Thanks to the internet, it’s pretty easy to wear your heart on your sleeve. With social Medias like Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Youtube, etc. It’s pretty easy to see where someone stands.

If someone is left wing, they more than likely are going to share some kind of meme about it. Same if your right wing, Libertarian, Christian, atheist, Creationist, evolutionist, etc.

This is particularly true with feminism.

If you go on Tumblr there are A LOT of feminist pages. (Including lots of FEMEN pages).

Most of these pages annoy me!

Why? Because most of these pages aren’t so much pro women as they are anti-men. Always talking about privilege, the patriarchy, and just how you are a worthless human being if you are straight, white, Cis-gendered male.

This is what most people, sadly, think of when they hear the word feminist.

These types of women almost made me not want to be a feminist. That is, until I looked up the actual definition itself.

fem·i·nism

  [fem-uh-niz-uhm]  Show IPA

noun

1.

The doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men.

2.

( sometimes initial capital letter ) an organized movement for the attainment of such rights for women.

3.

feminine character.

Origin: 
1890–95;  < French féminisme;  see feminine, -ism

That’s what a feminist is. Someone who believes that in our society, men and women should be treated as equals.

I think some people think I’m not a feminist because of my faith.

Here’s the thing. I live my personal life as a theocracy. A life dedicated in serving God.

And though I spread the word of God, I do not shove it down anyone’s throats. I do not want laws that deny people their American rights because it may or may not go against my personal beliefs.

Maybe because people think I’m not a feminist because I believe in the Bible and the verse it:

“² Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. ²³ For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. ²⁴ But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.”

BUT! People who love to quote this verse. Rather they are pro or anti feminism, forget about the verse RIGHT AFTER IT!

“^Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.

So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church.”

It says Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church.

Has there been any better of example of submission, love, and cherishing than Christ dying on that cross for his bride “the church”?

When a man is head of the house, it means he is a spiritual leader of the home. The pastor of the home. That doesn’t mean he is allowed to do whatever he wants to do and the wife has to just stand there and agree.

I’m about to be married in a few weeks and my fiancé makes more money than me.

Does this mean he is he allowed to go out a buy whatever he wants?

NO! He has to run it by me first. We talk, we discuss, we budget and we make the decision together!

Now some women, even Christian women don’t see their husbands as the head of the house in anyway. That they are equals in every way. Even don’t have a problem with women as pastors.

I personally am on the fence on that particular subject. Still, if a woman wants to be a pastor, and she feels lead, sure she has that right as a human being and as an American.

You see, we all have personal beliefs. But that’s the thing. They are PERSONAL.

I love my life. I follow God. I tell people my beliefs but only if they are willing to listen. If not, I pray for them and I talk about YouTube videos, TV, comics, novels, etc.

That’s what I can’t stand about a lot of feminist now and days.

You see, so many feminist seem to have different standards of what it means to be pro women’s rights.

You wear makeup? Why do you try so hard to please men?

You wear a head scarf? What a cruel male dominated culture you live in. you must be oppressed.

You wear miniskirts and high heels? You must be so desperate to attract men?

You wear dresses? Why are you trying so hard to fit into the mold of so called “femininity”?

These seem funny, right? No way could they be true.

But my God, are they EVER!

Why do judge each other so harshly?

A feminist does not care what a woman does. A feminist cares what a woman is not allowed to do but a man can.

That is equal rights.

That’s what feminism is.